What these relationship terms mean
Polyamorous relationships allow for more than one romantic relationship with everyone’s knowledge and consent. You don’t need to have several partners right now to find that arrangement appealing.
Consensual non-monogamy is a broader term for agreements that allow romantic or sexual connections outside one exclusive couple. Polyamory is one form of it. Monogamy means agreeing to an exclusive relationship with one partner.
Polyfidelity is an exclusive arrangement within polyamory: the people involved agree to keep romantic or sexual relationships within their group. Everyone still needs a say in the agreements, including what exclusivity means to them.
What the quiz considers
The 14 questions ask about your preferred agreements and how you’d handle everyday dating situations. You’ll consider a partner’s crush, shared calendars, and what you’d ask someone who already has a partner.
Answer for what you’d want, rather than what you think a partner would prefer. If you’re unsure, choose the answer closest to your current feelings.
This is a personality quiz for self-reflection and fun. Your identity and readiness for a particular relationship are things a quiz can’t determine. The result names describe possible preferences, not fixed labels.
How to read the four results
Leaning toward monogamy
This result points toward a preference for an exclusive partnership. Consider which parts of exclusivity you want and what agreements you’d need to discuss with a partner.
Leaning toward polyamory
You may be interested in multiple romantic relationships for yourself and the same freedom for your partners. Think about how you’d feel about sharing time with their other relationships.
Curious about polyfidelity
An exclusive group relationship may appeal to you. This kind of exclusive group relationship is one form of polyamory. Think about how each person would have an equal chance to discuss boundaries.
Still exploring your preferences
Mixed or uncertain feelings can leave you with questions. You don’t need to choose a label. Notice which answers felt easy and which depended on the situation.
Questions worth thinking through
Attraction to other people doesn’t establish a preference for multiple relationships. Neither does jealousy or dissatisfaction with a partner. Those feelings can happen under different relationship agreements.
- Would you want multiple relationships if your current relationship felt satisfying?
- Which agreements would you freely choose for yourself and accept for a partner?
- What would you need to discuss before making time for another relationship?
If you’re unsure about how you feel in your current relationship that’s a separate question worth considering.
Your existing agreements still count
A quiz result doesn’t change an agreement you’ve made. Existing agreements remain in place unless everyone involved freely agrees to change them.
Consent means people can say no without pressure. Wanting different arrangements doesn’t make either person’s preference wrong, and nobody owes a partner permission to change a relationship’s boundaries.
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