Quiz: Am I Polyamorous? Get 100% Honest Answer

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This Quiz Reveals If You’re Polyamorous

With its 20 romance-orientated questions, the polyamory quiz reveals if you like the idea of being in a non-monogamous relationship.

Polyamory or Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) is a style of relationship in which two or more partners consent to form romantic or sexual bonds with other people.

The test on this page identifies if you’re into non-monogamous partnerships—and explains why.

Relationship Style	Definition
Polyamory	Having more than one romantic partner
Monogamy	Having only one romantic partner
Polyfidelity	Romantic and sexual exclusivity in a group
Open marriage	Having a primary relationship along with secondary lovers or sexual partners
Consensual Non-Monogamy	An umbrella term for any relationship that involves more than one romantic partner.

 

Signs You Like the Idea of Polyamory

Generally, if you’re not happy in a monogamous relationship, you might be polyamorous. However, since polyamory revolves around compersion, you don’t necessarily need to hate your current relationship or partner to realize you’re polyamorous—you might just dislike the style of it.

Here are a few signs you’re polyamorous:

• You feel limited and stuck in monogamous relationships.
• You believe that people can fall in love with multiple partners.
• You don’t like or understand jealousy in relationships.
• You feel genuinely happy when your partner is happy—even if someone else is involved.
• You believe that it’s totally manageable to have multiple partners.
• You’re sexually attracted to other people and want to explore your sexuality with them.

Is Polyamory a Bad Thing?

Helen Fisher, the author of Anatomy of Love, believes that neither monogamy nor polyamory is unnatural human behavior. She suggests that we are animals who form pair bonds. However, from the evolutionary standpoint, we’ve always practiced serial monogamy—not absolute exclusivity.

Consensual non-monogamy is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of. As with all other relationship styles, it’s just a way of loving and forming bonds with others.

The stigma around polyamory roots in cheating and unfaithfulness. However, you should note that polyamorous relationships are based on honesty, transparency, and consent. So, it’s not cheating.

Both monogamy and polyamory become societal threats only when they’re imposed or enforced. So, there’s no need to worry about them as long as they’re consensual.

What to Do If the Test Says You’re Polyamorous

If you’re already in a monogamous relationship and the test calls you polyamorous, it’s best to discuss your feelings with your partner. You can also talk to a therapist to clear up your mind before opening up to your current lover.

If you’re not in a serious relationship, you have enough time to explore your dating personality and sexual desires. Maybe you should explore polyamory in your own way and get to know yourself better before establishing any long-term relationships.

Take the Test to See How Polyamorous You Are

Do you still ask yourself, “Am I polyamorous?” Take this quiz to see if you have true love for more than one person. The cool thing about our test is that it will reveal if it’s actual love or lust that’s causing you to think of polyamory.

Answer 20 relatable romance and sex life questions to find out if you prefer monogamy or consensual non-monogamy.

By the way, we’d also recommend you take our other love quiz to see if your marriage is worth saving. It can help you make up your mind and make the right decision after analyzing your polyamory tendencies.

Questions of the quiz

• 1
  How jealous of a partner are you?
  

  • I’m very jealous

  • I’m not jealous at all

  • It depends on our boundaries

• 2
  What’s your idea of true love?
  

  • Life-long commitment and compassion

  • Affection and attraction with no boundaries

  • Feeling safe and protected in a family

• 3
  What type of love would make you feel restricted?
  

  • Controlling

  • Limited to one partner

  • Burdensome

• 4
  How’d you describe your sexuality archetype?
  

  • Committed

  • Explorer

  • Devotee

• 5
  What type of romantic partnership makes the most sense?
  

  • 50/50 responsibility share between two people

  • A flexible way of responsibility sharing with fewer boundaries

  • Sharing responsibilities among a group of people rather than two

• 6
  How would you define compersion?
  

  • Trying to make your lover happy

  • Feeling happy for your lover no matter what

  • Sharing happiness with a group of people you love

• 7
  What aspects of traditional relationships are boring?
  

  • Raising children

  • Monogamous sex

  • Possessiveness

• 8
  How many partners should be involved in forming a family?
  

  • Two

  • There shouldn’t be a cap on that

  • There should be a cap, but it’s definitely not two

• 9
  Do you like the idea of tribe mentality?
  

  • No, I don’t think so

  • I prefer modern relationship styles

  • Yes, I feel it’s a safe relationship style

• 10
  How would you define commitment?
  

  • Remaining loyal to one person

  • Being honest with people who love you

  • It’s a kind of exclusivity in a family or tribe

• 11
  Do you believe that monogamous sex can remain interesting for years?
  

  • Yes, it certainly can

  • I don’t believe so. I prefer non-exclusivity.

  • I’d rather have more than one exclusive partner

• 12
  How would you spice up your long-term relationship?
  

  • Adventure

  • Sexual fantasies

  • Adding more people to the family

• 13
  What’s the most challenging aspect of long-term relationships?
  

  • Financial problems

  • Sexual problems

  • Overload of responsibility

• 14
  How would you react to cheating in a long-term relationship?
  

  • I’d break up

  • I’d discuss it

  • I’d exclude that member from the family

• 15
  Which one’s closer to your sexual fantasies’ archetype?
  

  • Romantic

  • Wild

  • Tribal