Do you ask yourself, “Am I happy in my relationship?” This quiz Analyzes 20 signs of unhappy romantic bonds to give an accurate and honest answer.
How to Know if You’re Happy in Your Relationship
Confusion about whether or not you’re happy in your relationship is the first sign that you might not be. People who feel unhappy in their love life deny it subconsciously. When you don’t know if you’re happy with your partner or not, something might be wrong with your relationship.
Note: If you’re not on a romantic bond yet, consider taking the ‘Am I Ready for a Relationship Quiz‘ instead.
Most life and relationship coaches unanimously believe that the key to analyzing your state of happiness in a romantic relationship is “reflection.” You need to be honest about your situation and avoid denying your emotions, no matter how negative or undesirable they are.
If that sounds like a lot to do, let us lend a hand with our brand-new test. (See below).
Take a Self-Reflective Quiz to Find Out
Not everyone is capable of reflecting on their love life properly. Your emotions are sometimes so complicated that you can’t distinguish right and wrong. If that’s the case, taking a test like ours might come in handy. It’s a set of 20 questions that allow you to review the signs of happiness and dissatisfaction in your relationship.
The goal is to help you decide if you’re happy with your love life or not. But the results come with extra helpful pieces of information that can help you get your head around everything better.
Analyze the signs of unhappiness in your relationship.
You might not know where to start reflecting on your bond with your partner. That’s where the quiz steps into the game. The questions here are designed to guide you through a self-assessment review of both your emotions and experiences.
The key is to distinguish between what you feel and what’s happening in your life. There are moments where you’re like, “I’m not happy in my relationship, but I love him/her.” And it’s a sign that your emotional conflicts stop you from having a rational judgment. Using a genuine test like ours lets you dodge such misjudgments, though.
Evaluate your feelings and thoughts.
Feeling like you’re stuck in an unhappy relationship is awful. It might lead to overthinking every detail of your life, looking for your mistakes to fix. But that never results in an accurate breakdown of the situation. The test allows you to evaluate the validity of your thoughts without stressing you up or making you feel guilty.
Unlike some beliefs, relationships are not a happy journey from start to end. So, you might feel dissatisfied now and then. The key is to identify when the ups and downs are toxic and better off without them.
See if everything is fine with your relationship.
The test answers your big question of “Am I happy in my relationship?” as accurately as possible. Plus, the results allow you to determine the cause of potential problems, whether it’s lack of communication with your partner or having unmatching love languages.
Signs and Symptoms of Unhappy Relationship
What are the red flags? Where do you need to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend and move on? While there’s no particular guideline for that, you might want to reconsider your choice if the following signs are present.
Lack of communication.
The first sign of an unhappy relationship is missing intimate interactions. You or your partner might find yourself isolated and lonely. But you may also feel like it’s hard to speak out. Everyone has a specific communication style. And the key is to find one that works for your relationship. If you cannot talk to your lover and express your thoughts/emotions, chances are you’re in an unhappy affair.
Any sort of verbal, physical, or emotional abuse is a red flag, with no exception. If your partner abuses you, you’re in an unhappy relationship that needs to end soon. Such behaviors are among the rare problems that can be unsolvable. So, you’re better without wasting your time trying to fix a broken relationship with a toxic partner.
Do you feel like you need to be around your partner all the time? Being close to your partner is a-okay. However, extreme neediness and clinginess show that there might be something wrong. You usually feel this way when you have a fear of abandonment. And a healthy relationship never leaves room for such issues.
Lack of physical intimacy.
When you’re in an unhappy relationship, you find yourself less likely to desire sex and intimacy. Most couples start falling apart when their sexual interactions come to an end. It’s not normal for young and healthy people to avoid physical intimacy—unless they have a problem of some sort. (Of course, this rule is not true about asexual couples or those who have decided not to have sex for whatsoever reason).
Self-sabotage and depression.
Another way to know if you’re in a happy relationship is by analyzing your self-love level. Something is wrong if you don’t care for yourself and let go of your needs. A thriving love life encourages you to become a better person in all aspects of life. Contrarily, a toxic one leads to depression, lack of self-esteem, or self-sabotage.
What if the Test Said You’re Unhappy in Your Relationship?
Don’t panic. Relationship status is never a fixed-line. There’re always ups and downs. So, you might be unhappy with yours for now. But that doesn’t mean it needs to stay the same way for the rest of your life. There’re several ways to fix a broken romantic relationship. The key is to have the courage to face the problems and have the will to deal with them.
Here’s what to do if the Relationship Happiness Test results were worrying:
Step #1: Reflection and realization.
You and your partner need to reflect on your feelings, thoughts, and decisions. You may have been changed in the course of the past few months/years. And your needs might be different now. Or you may have hidden problems that you were scared to bring up because you didn’t want to face more conflicts.
If that’s the case, now it’s time to talk and review your relationship carefully. But don’t make it feel like a trial. Give each other enough safe space to express yourself with no fear—and avoid being judgmental because it’s not going to help.
Step #2: Communication and preparation.
After finding the root causes of your problems, it’s time to communicate your needs. Be honest about what you expect from your relationship and let your partner know what you want. At this point, you need to prepare yourself to solve potential problems from the past and get ready to progress.
Step #3: Setting goals.
It’s best to set mutual goals for your relationship. Your love life should not be like two separate train rails with unmatching destinations. You and your lover should have several joint objectives to keep you two together. Of course, you should still have enough room for your individual goals for the future. But you don’t want to keep them away from your partner.
Read Before Taking the Quiz
If you constantly ask yourself, “Am I happy in my relationship?” the best bet is talking to a couples therapist. You and your partner can benefit from a guided process through which you solve your problems, get to know each other better, and progress.
Please, take the results of the test lightly. That’s because human relationships are way too complicated. Make sure you talk to your partner about your emotions after taking the test and tell them how it made you feel.
How to Play?
Playing personality quizzes is straightforward: Choose the option that’s true about you—or you relate to—and select “Next.” Unlike trivia quizzes, personality tests have no right or wrong answers. But the questions are in forced-choice format. The point is to push you to choose an option that makes the most sense, not the one that’s 100% true. For the most accurate results, don’t overthink your responses. Go with options that you “feel” are the best.
Questions of the quiz
- 1How easy is it for you to talk about your feelings with your partner?
I think it’s easy enough
- 2Which one describes you and your partner’s communication style?
Respectful and calm
Aggressive and oud
- 3Which one describes the intimacy level of your communication with your partner?
Emotionally intimate but not physically
Physically intimate but not emotionally
We’re not intimate at all
- 4What are your arguments like?
Calm and rational
Very aggressive and loud
- 5Do you think your partner is abusing you in any way?
Not at all
I used to think that way
They might be (not sure)
Yes, I think they are
- 6On a scale of 0 to 5, how toxic do you think your partner is? (5 means very toxic).
- 7How often do you call your lover to check in with them?
Once per day
Twice per day
Three to four times per day
More than five times a day
- 8Do you feel like you’ve become needier these days?
I’m not needy at all
I might become needy once in a while
I’ve recently been needier
I’m always needy
- 9How does your partner respond when you want to talk to them?
They always make the time
They usually listen
They rarely listen
They never listen
- 10Do you feel any change in your sex life?
No, not really
I think we do it too often
I think we need more of it
Yes, we don’t have sex anymore
- 11Does any of you try to avoid physical intimacy?
No, we both love it
Sometimes, but it’s not a big deal
Yes, but it started recently
Yes, we avoid it at all cost
- 12How depressed are you these days?
Not depressed at all
My depression has increased lately
I’m severely depressed
- 13Which one is true about your depression level before starting your relationship?
I was depressed before meeting my partner.
I was about to heal from depression when I met my partner
My depression increased after I met my partner
I was NOT depressed before meeting my partner
- 14Are you excited about the future of your relationship?
Yes, very excited!
Yes, kind of
I’m a bit worried
We have no future…
- 15Do you want to spend more quality time with your partner?
Yes, I’d love it
Yes, I think so
Meh, not sure
No. I’m fine
- 16Can you say that your lover is also one of your best friends?
Yes, they’re my main bestie
I think so
No. Not at all
- 17Do you feel the need to hide some aspects of your life from your partner?
No. I don’t hide anything
I don’t think so
Yeah, but it started recently
Yes, I lie all the time (I have to lie)
- 18How often do you lie to your partner? (Be honest).
All the time
- 19Do you think your relationship can help you achieve your goals in life?
I hope so
I don’t think so
No, not at all
- 20Final question; do you know why you are in this relationship?
I guess I do
I’m not sure