If you are asking, what is wrong with me? This free quiz is going to help you. It is based on the psychology of feeling worthless, inadequate, and disappointed.
The Science of What’s Wrong with You
Mastin Kipp, the author of Daily Love, says every question has a presupposition and emotion bind to it. So, when you ask, “what is wrong with me?” you assume that THERE IS something wrong with you. And you only need to find out what. The emotion here could be anger, disappointment, frustration, or even fear or stress.
It is challenging to embrace unpleasant feelings. Sometimes, you give up on dealing with them, believing that you are the problem—and not the emotions or their causes. That is when you may start asking self-damaging questions, such as, “Why am I so useless?”
The Rosenberg Reset Quiz
The test on this page is based on DR. Joan Rosenberg’s theory (aka The Rosenberg Reset formula). It discovers what is wrong with you and why you feel this way based on your unpleasant feelings. During a 2016 TED Talk, DR. Rosenberg explained how running away from unwanted emotions makes you feel weak against them. She also suggested that you will become a more confident and peaceful person if you experience and move through the worst emotions.
The What Is Wrong With Me Quiz uses her formula (1 Choice, 8 Feelings, 90 Seconds) to analyze your personality. By the end of the questionary, you find out the root cause of your problem and learn how to deal with it. Here is how each step of the quiz works.
1 Choice
According to DR. Joan, resisting unpleasant emotions causes physical and mental conflicts. So, the one choice you need to make is to “stay and embrace the moment.” During the quiz, we look at how you react to a sudden rush of unlikable happenings and the sensations they cause.
8 Feelings
The Rosenberg Reset Formula suggests that your main struggle is one or more of the following sensations.
- Sadness
- Shame
- Helplessness
- Anger
- Vulnerability
- Embarrassment
- Disappointment
- Frustration
The What Is Wrong With Me Quiz creates scenarios to leave you with such emotions. The goal is to see how you deal with them and how they affect you.
90 Seconds
During the said TED Talk, DR. Joan also mentioned how long it takes for humans to progress feelings. She said, “When an emotion is triggered in your body, biochemical start to rush in your blood. And it takes only about sixty to ninety seconds before they reside and go away.”
So, if you could deal with unpleasant sensations for up to 90 seconds, you would master your feelings. And it would help you stop asking, “What is wrong with me?”
What if There’s Nothing Wrong with You?
Psychologically speaking, self-sabotaging, disgracing, and degrading questions always do more harm than good. Susan Henkels, a psychotherapist with 45+ years of experience, says, “you need to forgive yourself for how bad you think you are.” Susan is also the author of a well-known self-care book called, What If There’s Nothing Wrong with You?
In her book, she talks about how letting go of all the negative and degrading questions could bring you peace of mind. She says, “Forgiveness is a choice. You decide to stop saying what is wrong with you. And you choose to have something way more powerful for your life.”
How to Break Free from Asking, “What’s Wrong with Me?”
Susan Henkels suggests a simple assignment for those struggling with self-damaging questions. She says, “Start your day by looking into the mirror, saying, What if there is nothing wrong with you?” This simple mission will help you accept who you are and empower you to change the unwanted parts—without hurting your feelings.
Replacing self-damaging questions with empowering ones is another way of breaking free. Positive thoughts result in positive attitudes and actions. So, if you substitute the negative feelings with pleasant ones, the outcome would be surprisingly satisfying.
Empowering Questions to Ask Instead of “What’s Wrong with You?”
Your negative thoughts about your personality are likely the reason you ask degrading questions. So, here are some alternative questions to replaced with the downgrading ones to have peace of mind and leave anxiety behind.
· What are the metrics?
When you ask, “What’s wrong with me?” the presupposition is that you have a problem. But what are the measuring tools here? Are you saying that because of others’ comments? Do you feel bad because you failed a task or job? If yes, is this data enough to call you worthless?
· How did my life make me who I am?
The way you are, good or bad, is a result of your experiences. Dealing with who you are is easier the moment you embrace the reality of your life. No one is perfect. And everyone has their faults and defects. So, why don’t you stop looking for a perfectly fine version of yourself?
· What can I do to feel better?
You are in charge of your life. Instead of thinking of what’s wrong with you, look for ways to change for the better. Is it the toxic people around you? Get rid of them. Is it because you feel alone? Expose yourself to social activities. Whatever you do, stop assuming you are the problem. (Even if you ARE the problem, there is always enough time to change).
Things to Know About the Quiz
We are not here to label you. The What Is Wrong With Me Quiz is a self-report questionary to dive deeper into your feelings. The test is not designed to make fun of your insecurities or emotions. All the questions and results are judgment-free and respectful.
How to Play?
Playing personality quizzes is straightforward: Choose the option that’s true about you—or you relate to—and select “Next.” Unlike trivia quizzes, personality tests have no right or wrong answers. But the questions are in forced-choice format. The point is to push you to choose an option that makes the most sense, not the one that’s 100% true. For the most accurate results, don’t overthink your responses. Go with options that you “feel” are the best.
Questions of the quiz
- 1I feel like socializing is__________.
Pointless
Difficult
Stressful
Stupid
- 2Having no real friends means ________.
You will die alone
No one is there for you
You don’t deserve them
All you have is enemies
- 3I’m _______ my body.
Not happy with
Tired of
Ashamed of
Okay with
- 4When someone says something negative about me, I feel _______.
Broken
Discouraged
Uncomfortable
Angry
- 5On a scale of 0 to 10, how much do you think you need help? (10 means very much).
10
8-9
6-7
3-5
0-2
- 6How do you feel when someone leaves you?
Heartbroken
Numb
Worthless
Hateful
- 7I feel ______ when I think about my past.
Sad
Hopeless
Cringey
Furious
- 8Do you think you deserve to be loved?
No
Maybe
Not anymore
Yes
- 9I hate it when people __________ me.
Leave
Avoid
Judge
Ignore
- 10I usually __________ when I think about my worst memories.
Cry
Feel numb
Feel stressed
Feel mad
- 11Which of the following sentences would show your emotions better?
“Leave me alone.”
“I don’t need your help.”
“I don’t deserve you.”
“You don’t deserve me.”
- 12Who is causing your problems?
No one
I don’t know
Me
Everyone else
- 13My bad feelings make me think that maybe _________.
No one loves me
Everyone is tired of me
I’m a failure
I don’t need anybody in my life
- 14I feel bad because nobody __________.
Wants me
Helps me
Likes me
Feels me
- 15On a scale of 0 to 10, how big of a failure do you think you are? (10 means very much).
10
8-9
6-7
3-5
0-2
- 16What type of music do you listen to when feeling bad?
Pop
Blues
R&B/Hip Hop
Rock/Metal
- 17Have you ever felt like you are full of unreleased energy? Like, you are about to burst.
No
Maybe
I don’t think so
Yes
- 18Which of the following things hurts or would hurt the most?
Slurs
Disloyalties
Body shaming
Humiliation
- 19Which one describes your idea of a desirable life?
A peaceful life
A luxurious life
A respectful life
An adventurous life
- 20Final question; what needs to change to make your life better?
Everything
I don’t know
Me
Nothing
