What these preferences mean
Top and bottom are words people use for preferences during sexual intimacy. In the context of penetration, a top prefers the giving role, and a bottom prefers the receiving role. Penetration means a body part or sex toy entering another person’s body.
These preferences don’t tell you who takes charge. Dominance and submission describe agreed roles around control. A top can prefer to follow a partner’s lead, and a bottom can prefer to lead.
Your clothes, body shape and gender expression don’t establish your preferences. Neither does being outgoing or quiet. You can’t work out someone else’s preferred role by looking at them.
How this quiz works
Adults age 18 and older can take this top or bottom quiz. Its 15 questions ask about your stated preferences, including what has felt comfortable and what you’d want to discuss with a partner.
The questions also ask about boundaries, changing roles and intimacy without penetration. Your answers are the basis for a preference reflection. You don’t need past experience to think about what interests you, and uncertainty is a valid answer.
The five possible results are Top, Bottom, Versatile, Side and Unsure. A result is a tentative reading of your answers, not a diagnosis or a determination of your identity. There is no basis for a claim of 100% accuracy.
A tie or a mix of answers doesn’t by itself mean you prefer both roles. Versatility means an interest in both; uncertainty means you haven’t settled on a preference. If several labels seem to fit, you can leave the question open.
What the results mean
Top
A Top result suggests your answers lean toward the giving role during penetration. It says nothing about your confidence, leadership or how much control you want.
Bottom
Preferring the receiving role may lead to a Bottom result. That preference doesn’t decide how active you are or who sets the pace with a partner.
Versatile
Versatile describes interest in both top and bottom roles. Your preference might depend on the partner or the situation. Switch usually describes moving between dominance and submission, so the words aren’t interchangeable.
Side
If you prefer sexual intimacy without penetration, Side may be a useful label. Those preferences can include many kinds of closeness and pleasure. They aren’t lesser or less intense than anyone else’s.
Unsure
An Unsure result leaves room for questions, limited experience or preferences you haven’t put into words. You don’t owe anyone a decision. All five labels are optional, and they don’t cover every person’s experience.
Talking about preferences without pressure
You choose what to share with a partner. Ask if they’re comfortable discussing preferences, and accept that they may want privacy. Sharing a result doesn’t mean agreeing to any activity; consent needs to be freely given and can change.
If you’re also curious about how you handle closeness in relationships, you can explore your attachment style. That’s a separate question from what you enjoy during intimacy.
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