Should you move in with your boyfriend? This relationship quiz analyzes 20 signs to reveal if it’s the right decision. Take it before relocating for love.
Should You Move in with Your Boyfriend?
If you are happy in your relationship, financially stable, have tried living together for short periods, have agreed on a long-term plan, and have made a shared decision to relocate for love, it should be okay to move in with your boyfriend.
Take a Quiz to Find Out
It’s one of the most (if not the most) challenging decisions to make before marriage. Is it a good idea to move in together? How would it affect your relationship? Are you even ready?
The good news is that you can take a compatibility test to make up your mind. We have created a 20-questions self-report questionary that covers every aspect of relocating for romance. And besides couples therapy, it’s probably one of the best tools you have to evaluate your options.
Review the signs.
You may feel ready to level up your relationship. But is that enough? The quiz helps spot and analyze hidden signals to ensure you’re making the right decision. It considers your attachment style, habits, and even prospects to generate accurate results.
Weight your decision.
Moving in with your boyfriend is not the only option you have. There are other ways to step up in your relationship, such as starting a mutual hobby (e.g., going to the gym). So, you don’t have to be fixated on the idea of living together—unless it’s truly what you want.
Answer crucial questions.
You may not know what to consider before relocating for a relationship. But several important questions must be answered in advance: Is it love or lust? Is it financially feasible or not? How long have you known your partner? And many more.
You can either create a checklist of all the questions or take a quiz that already has them.
When You Should NOT Move in with Your Boyfriend
Yes, your big question is, “Should I move in with him?” But how do you know it’s not a good idea? Well, there are four occasions when getting a home with your partner might ruin your relationship.
When you have to sacrifice your personal life to live with him.
You should not move in with your boyfriend when you are giving up on too many aspects of your life.
Mary Jo Rapini, a psychotherapist who is specialized in relationships, says, “Imagine you are leaving not only your family but you’re leaving everything you knew to be with this other person. Please, don’t put yourself in a situation like that.”
Sacrificing your lifestyle to be with your partner doesn’t make you a good girlfriend or boyfriend. And it might actually backfire and negatively affect your relationship in the long run.
When you have to live in his place despite your will.
The ideal way to move in with a romantic partner is to get a new place because things might get complicated when either of you has to live in the other’s house. It could mean that you have to get along or change a already established lifestyle—and that’s not an easy task.
When you don’t have any financial plans or agreements.
Sure, it might sound adventurous and somewhat sexy to live with your lover. But you beware of the additional costs. Relocating is an expensive practice on its own. Now, add other expenses that come with living as a pair.
Couples who are facing financial struggles might want to postpone any move-in plans unless it’s a cost-effective or job-related decision. Otherwise, they are doomed to regret their decision soon.
When there are other people involved.
Ideally, you move in with your boyfriend to get to know each other and step up in your relationship. So, it’s not a good idea to live in a house where you have roommates or maybe other family members.
It could ruin your lifestyle as a couple, no matter how cost-effective it is to share a house with others. So, wait until you can afford to lease or buy your own house.
5 Key Questions to Ask Before Relocating for Love
You might feel ready for a relationship that requires a full-time commitment. But you should not move in with your partner unless you have the answers to the following questions.
#1. Is any of you hesitant about the decision?
If you or your lover is overly nervous about the idea, maybe it’s best to give it some time. Hesitance is not a good sign when it comes to big decisions such as relocating for love.
#2. Is it an impulsive decision?
Your expectations might be unrealistic. Unlike romantic movies, moving in with a partner is mostly messy, time-consuming, and costly. So, if you decided to live together after a couple of drinks and fairly impressive intercourse, you should rethink the whole idea.
#3. Have you passed the initial stages of a relationship?
Adam LoDolce, the founder of Love Strategies, believes that you should move in with your boyfriend if you have known him for at least a year. But the point is that you’re better off without living with a person that you barely know.
#4. Is any of you forced to cope with the other’s lifestyle?
Getting a home should not be a sacrifice for one side of the relationship. If it’s putting one of you in a stressful, challenging, and unwanted situation, then you should put it off.
#5. Are you financially stable?
If you can’t afford it, don’t go for it. Moving costs anything between $800 up to $5,000 in the US. So, play your cards wisely and don’t risk your financial status.
Sounds Confusing? Collect Your Thoughts with a Genuine Quiz
There must be lots of stuff going on in your head. And we get it. Deciding on moving in with someone—especially your boyfriend—has never been easy. And that’s why we’re here to lend a hand.
Take our quiz and narrow down your thoughts with genuine questions. It might not be as effective as couples therapy, but it certainly helps a lot.
Disclaimer
QuizExpo is not associated with any of the names mentioned in the Moving in with Boyfriend Quiz.
How to Play?
Playing personality quizzes is straightforward: Choose the option that’s true about you—or you relate to—and select “Next.” Unlike trivia quizzes, personality tests have no right or wrong answers. But the questions are in forced-choice format. The point is to push you to choose an option that makes the most sense, not the one that’s 100% true. For the most accurate results, don’t overthink your responses. Go with options that you “feel” are the best.
Questions of the quiz
- 1Why do you want to move in with your boyfriend?
We want to step up in our relationship
We need to spend more time with each other
We think it could be a fun experience
We don’t have a particular reason for that
- 2Are you going to live in your partner’s house or will he move in with you?
We’re planning on getting a new place.
We haven’t decided yet.
I’ll be living in his house.
He’ll be living in my house.
- 3Can you afford to live independently?
Yes, I have my place.
I feel like I can. But I haven’t tried it.
No, I’m struggling with my expenses.
No, I’m living with my parents.
- 4Does your boyfriend have a job?
Yes, he has a stable job.
Yes, but it’s not stable.
No, he doesn’t have a job.
I don’t know much about his job/career.
- 5What about you? Do you have a job?
Yes, I have a stable job.
Yes, but it’s not stable.
No, I don’t have a job.
I’m looking for a job.
- 6Are you planning on moving to a place that’s close to where you currently live?
Yes, the new place is close to where I live.
It’s not close, but it’s in the same city.
No, it’s in another city.
We haven’t made any decisions about that.
- 7Which one sounds like something you have to sacrifice to live with your boyfriend?
Time and money.
Social life.
Career.
I don’t know.
- 8Are your habits aligned with your boyfriend’s?
Yes, we get along easily.
I think so. (Not sure).
No, our habits are unexpectedly different.
I don’t know much about my partner’s habits.
- 9What do you think of your boyfriend’s lifestyle?
I love it.
I think I like it. (Not sure).
I kind of doesn’t like it. And I hope it improves over time.
I don’t know much about his lifestyle.
- 10Have you ever stayed in each other’s house for longer than two weeks?
Yes, we’ve done that before.
No, but we’re planning to.
No, it’s not possible.
No, but we would like to.
- 11Have you discussed the financial aspects of moving in together? (e.g., bills and payments).
Yes, we have a reliable plan.
Not really.
No, we’ve never discussed it.
I think it’s too early for that.
- 12How long have you been in a relationship with your boyfriend?
3 years or more
1-2 year
6 months or so
Less than 6 months
- 13Are there going to be other people living with you after you moved in together?
No, we’re leasing/buying a new house.
It depends. We might share a house with other roommates.
Yes, we are planning on living with our families/friends.
I don’t know.
- 14Which one is closer to your prospects of living with your partner?
Preparing for marriage.
Getting to know each other better.
Having lots of fun and getting intimate.
Exploring new aspects of our relationship.
- 15Have you experienced living on your own for longer than 6 months?
Yes, I’ve been living on my own for more than 6 months.
Kind of. I’m pretty used to living on my own.
No, I’ve never lived on my own.
I’ve only lived on my own for 2-3 months or so.
- 16Is any of you hesitant about the idea of moving in together?
No, we both feel ready.
Yes, we both feel hesitant.
Yes, I’m hesitant.
Yes, my partner is hesitant.
- 17Is there anything about your partner’s lifestyle that bothers you but you’ve never brought it up?
No, we’re open about our emotions and concerns.
Kind of. But it’s not a big deal.
Yes, there are lots of things that I’ve kept to myself.
I don’t know. Maybe.
- 18Do you have mutual goals in life or are you in a casual relationship?
Yes, we want to get married.
Yes, we want to step up in our relationship.
Not really. We just like spending time with each other.
I think it’s too early to have mutual goals or plans.
- 19How likely are you to get married in the future? (10 means it’s highly likely).
7-10
4-6
2-3
0-1
- 20Final question; how old are you?
29 or older
23-25
18-22
17 or younger
