Wondering if he feels the same is stressful. This quiz gives you a calm, practical check of common signals, then offers simple next steps. It looks at patterns over time, not one big moment. It is guidance for adults, not professional advice or a guarantee. It cannot read his mind or replace a direct conversation.
You will see three parts: the quiz and how it works, a guide to reading signals with real examples, and clear steps for what to say or do next. We also include safety and inclusivity notes and sources. If you want a broader look at texting tone and style, see our guide on communication signals.
How This Quiz Works (Methodology)
What we assess
- Reciprocity: Does he initiate, respond, and meet you halfway, or do you carry the effort?
- Consistency: patterns across weeks, not one-time highs or lows.
- Context: public and private behavior, group settings versus one-to-one, and timing.
- Respect for boundaries and consent: comfort with no, pace, time, and space.
- Communication clarity: specific plans, follow-through, and repair after conflict.
Scoring and results
Your answers map to four bands:
- Low: signals do not suggest active interest. Next step: protect your time, widen your focus, and consider a clean ask if you still want clarity.
- Mixed: some interest, many gaps. Next step: ask for a small plan with a clear time. Watch the response and follow-through.
- Moderate: repeated effort and care, a few contradictions. Next step: keep momentum, name your pace and boundaries, and try a simple date plan.
- Likely interest: steady effort and respect. Next step: keep communicating, share needs, and enjoy it without rushing labels.
Limits and fairness
Reading signals is imperfect. Culture, neurodiversity, shyness, avoidance, and life stressors can shape how people show interest. Body language can be misread, and texting can hide tone. This is a reflective tool, not a diagnostic or promise. This Research shows people often misread romantic or sexual intent, which is one reason we center patterns and consent, not single cues.
Reading the Signals
Green flags
- Consistent check-ins. He reaches out without prompting, not just when bored. A good sign is a steady rhythm that matches your pace.
Plans with specifics. Instead of “we should hang,” you get a time and place, plus follow-through. When plans shift, he brings a new option. - Curious, not prying. He asks about your week, friends, and goals, and listens. He remembers small details and circles back later.
- Respect for boundaries. You can say no or slow down, and the tone stays kind. He does not punish or sulk.
- Turn-toward moments. When you share a joke, idea, or small win, he responds and engages. These “bids” and warm responses build trust over time.
You can also check your own patterns. If texting style is adding noise, our quick check on communication signals can help you describe what you need, then ask for it clearly.
If your interest is in reading women’s signals, see our related guide on how to tell if a girl likes you. Keep the same rules: context, consent, and steady action over time.
What to Do Next
Try a clear ask.
“I enjoy talking with you, and I am free Friday after 6. Want to grab coffee at Oak Café?”
If that is yes, suggest a time window and confirm a day-of. If it is a maybe, offer one alternative and then pause the pursuit.
Name a boundary.
“I like getting plans a day in advance. Late-night invites do not work for me.”
“I am taking intimacy at a slow pace. If that is not your speed, I understand.”
If there is no response or he says no.
You deserve people who meet you halfway. Mute the chat, plan time with friends, and do one small thing that brings you back to yourself tonight. If patterns are mixed but you still want clarity, try one final message like, “I prefer clear plans. If you want to meet this week, let me know by Thursday.” Then let the outcome guide your focus.
If hot-cold behavior or guilt shows up, review common red flags in dating and decide what you will and will not accept. Healthy relationships respect time, space, and consent. These Resources can offer more help (LoveIsRespect & HotLine).
