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  • Because I care about my mental health

  • I am anxious about my style

  • I feel like I can't attach to anyone

  • I feel like no one loves me

  • None of the above

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This 2023 Attachment Style Quiz helps determine if you have a secure attachment type in the relationship or if it’s anxious, avoidant, or fearful.

What is Attachment Style Quiz?

It’s a set of 20 psychological questions focusing on you and your caregiver’s relationship to identify if you have a secure or insecure (anxious or avoidant) style.

A recent study’s excerpt in Washington Post reveals that roughly 20% of the population have an anxious style, 25% avoidant, and 5% fearful. So, half of the population is insecure in terms of relating to others.

You could take a specific anxiety test to see if your fears affect your relationships. But it wouldn’t necessarily reveal if you are securely attached to your caregiver. Therefore, a detailed quiz is advised.

Style Demonstrated by
Secure Having a positive view of self and others
Anxious-preoccupied Having a negative view of self and a positive view of others
Dismissive-avoidant Having a positive view of self and a negative view of others
Fearful-avoidant Having an unstable or fluctuating view of self and others

 

The Test Is Based on John Bowlby’s Theory

English psychologist John Bowlby coined the term attachment style, dividing it into three categories: secure, anxious, and avoidant. And the current test employs his theory.

Of course, the attachment theory has been developed throughout these years, and now, there are other subcategories, such as fearful, preoccupied, and dismissing. But the good news is that the quiz covers all of them.

3 Factors That Determine Your Adult Attachment Style

In one of his educational videos, Dr. Todd Grande suggests, “Attachment theory is mostly based on a child’s relationship with their mother. Now, this can also include other caregivers. But almost all the time when we see in the research literature, it’s specifically talking about the relationship with a mother.”

Although the primary factor, the mother-child relationship is not the only element in the identification of attachment types. Other dynamics include the person’s self-image as well as views on others.

Your relationship with your caregiver.

A parent-child relationship involving physical or emotional abuse, negligence, or overprotection can lead to insecure attachment styles.

One way to spot parental mistakes or abuses is by checking for trust issues. Insecure adults often find it challenging to depend on or believe in others. It’s a sign that their caregiver, the only person they trusted as a child, has betrayed them.

Your self-image.

Unlike a secure child, insecure individuals’ self-images vary. It could be an exaggerated, unrealistic, perfect picture of themselves—almost like that of a narcissist. Or it could be an overly downgrading, ambivalent, and self-sabotaging image.

Either way, an insecurely attached person’s idea of self contrasts with reality. So, their self-image could expose their attachment style.

Your views on others.

As a result of unhealthy attachment, an adult could form an avoidant personality, minimizing meaningful relationships. Or it could turn them into a clingy person who is overly needy. But whatever it is, the person’s views on others could reveal their style.

For example, a clingy individual might believe that others are better. An avoidant one may believe the opposite and consider themselves better than others.

The Attachment Quiz Reveals if You Are Secure or Insecure

Identification of attachment styles is easier said than done. In theory, you might find it a straightforward process of the mother-child relationship. But in reality, it’s a much more complicated process.

The quiz helps you narrow down your emotions, figuring out what they expose about your childhood. It’s a much more convenient process than doing the whole thing on your own. All you need to do is answer basic questions about your experiences, thoughts, and feelings.

Here’s a sneak pick of the test results.

Secure

Where love and trust come easily, secure attachments form between a child and caregiver. Recent data shows that 50% of the world’s population is fortunate to have this attachment style. Of course, it is not to say that secure people live a struggle-free life. However, the rate of highly sensitive individuals is lower among them, and severe personality disorders are mostly absent.

Insecure

A child who has been manipulated, ignored, or abandoned by their parents will struggle with unhealthy attachment styles as adults.

When one’s type is insecure, they are either anxious or avoidant. However, they might also fall into one of the preoccupied, dismissing, or fearful categories.

  • Preoccupied:

Anxious-preoccupied is a type of attachment that causes low self-esteem and downgraded self-image. Individuals with this style might think highly of others while having no respect for themselves. A preoccupied person often becomes a people-pleaser or undergoes the fear of abandonment in relationships.

  • Dismissing:

A dismissive-avoidant person thinks highly of themselves but downgrades others. They might feel entitled and discriminate against specific groups.

  • Fearful:

A common trait among fearful-avoidant persons is a victim mentality. Such people have negative views both of themselves and others. So, they struggle with intimacy and trust, avoiding any meaningful relationship that could potentially hurt them.

The Influence of Attachment Styles on Romantic Relationships

For many couples, the attachment quiz functions like a compatibility test; it helps them figure out how their childhood experiences affect their adulthood relationships.

According to the attachment theory, your sense of trust, the basis of a relationship, forms when you are a child. So, you can’t ignore its effect on your love life.

Help Guide demonstrates the effect of attachment types on a romantic partner with an example: “Someone with a secure style may be able to share their feelings openly and seek support when faced with relationship problems.”

Why You Should Take This Quiz

In one of his educational videos on mental health, Dr. Todd Grande suggests that specific personality disorders such as sociopathy might be linked to a person’s relationship with their caregiver. So, knowing your attachment style is a mental health checkup to see if you’re likely to have a disorder.

Moreover, the test lets you become mindful of your triggers and emotions. The idea is that your style can change over time—and you can heal from any emotional damage from your childhood. But recognizing the problems is the first step to recovering and changing for the better.

What if the Test Said You Are Insecure?

The chances of getting an insecure attachment type in your results are 50/50. It’s because half of the population struggles with unhealthy parent-child relationships while the other half doesn’t. But that shouldn’t scare you away.

Kati Morton, a certified clinical psychologist and therapist, offers four ways to cope with an insecure style and heal from it.

Work with a therapist.

“Luckily, there’s a ton that we can do about it,” says Kati Morton about healing from an insecure attachment. “My first recommendation would be to work with a therapist to process through any trauma or upset you’ve had in your past,” she adds. “We can heal from our past attachment. We just have to have someone that can be validating, that listens to us, and helps us learn how to self-soothe.”

Analyze your responses.

Kati Morton’s second tip is to pay attention to how you respond or react in relationships. She believes that noting things you would like to change or work on could be beneficial, too. “If we take time to be mindful and notice what behaviors we’re doing that aren’t beneficial to our relationships, we can actually start working on them,” she suggests.

Be mindful of your emotions.

You can use feeling charts or track where your emotions have come from to understand what you are trying to express. And then, you can get into describing the emotions. “We need to learn how to describe [our emotions] so that we can allow ourselves safely feel it,” says Kati.

Notice your triggers.

Kati believes, “We all have emotions that we are fine with and ones that we try to avoid. So, notice when you are feeling those that you’re trying to avoid, and bring these situations up in therapy so that you could work on emotion regulation techniques.”

Read Before Taking the Attachment Style Quiz

Be mindful of three facts:

  • Your style might change, especially when you deliberately work on it.
  • You could have a disorganized attachment style that is hard to recognize.
  • An insecure style doesn’t mean you’re less than one with a secure style.

Please, don’t use the test results to discriminate against others or degrade yourself. This quiz aims to help you better understand your emotions. It should not be replaced with a clinical examination by a certified psychologist or therapist.

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